God : Who is She?

God and the Creation

God… God and Spirituality Since I restarted my spiritual path and started talking about it I was never so often quizzed about my beliefs and what I think about other people’s beliefs. As much as this is expected I need to say it out straight: for me there is no external God. I don’t feelRead more …

Abuse (Wound Series, Childhood Trauma)

Aug 10, 2016 | Posted by in Abuse, Healing, Life, Wound consequences, Wounds | 14

Abuse (Wound Series, Childhood Trauma) This article is in the series about Childhood Trauma and Wounds. My last post was about abandonment. Abandonment caused me to doubt the possibility of stable happiness. I also makes me fear to date that I will lose what I really like. I’m going to talk in this post aboutRead more …

Compassion versus Pity (Evil Twins Serie)

Compassion versus Pity

Compassion versus Pity (Evil Twins Serie) In the series of blog posts about Evil Twins – Lookalike feelings that are actually exact opposites – I want to speak about Compassion vs. Pity after having written about Love versus Longing and why it matters in my pursuit of happiness and peace. What is Compassion? Compassion is theRead more …

Small Annoyances – How to Deal with Them?

Jul 20, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Life, Meditation | 18
Small Annoyances

Small Annoyances – How to Deal with Them? Big annoyances rot our joy of life. So we think at least. We actually tend to deal with big annoyances and jump into action to do something about them. With small annoyances we procrastinate, ponder whether it’s worthwhile to do anything, constantly run the thoughts as background noise in our minds. WhenRead more …

4 Reasons I support Bernie Sanders

Why I support Bernie Sanders #livehealingly

4 Reasons I support Bernie Sanders I am not American. I shouldn’t interfere in another country’s politics. Why do I support Bernie Sanders, one of the candidates of the US presidential election then? I don’t believe in a disconnected world where everyone goes about his own business blindly ignoring the reality of our interconnectedness. America is a powerfulRead more …

4 Reasons My Breath is my Life

Jun 6, 2016 | Posted by in Healing, Life, Meditation, Spirituality | 0
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4 Reasons My Breath is my Life Awakening to who you really are is not some mystical experience based on spirits and magic but a process of facing yourself and rediscovering your true nature, the essence of who you are and strive with it. Our Breath plays a central role in this process. Breathing hasRead more …

Fear, Pain and Love Healing my Heart


Fear, Pain and Love Healing my Heart I am asked often these days what kicked off for me the healing process after years of living a half life. I couldn’t answer because I had issues remembering all the events and how I felt at different times. Healing my Heart I’m a Grown Up Wounded Child underRead more …

Why? War, Violence, Suffering, Poverty

May 7, 2016 | Posted by in Healing, Life, My views, Spirituality, Wound consequences | 0
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Why? War, Violence, Suffering, Poverty When I was a child and I was looking at the news I was scared. I saw Bhopal, airplanes being hijacked, nuclear accidents and I thought “but why?” and it filled my nights with terror and sadness. I had at heart to have a job that would allow me toRead more …

Anxiety – How to Manage it Well?

May 4, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Life, Meditation, Wound consequences | 2

Anxiety – How to Manage it Well? I realized while talking to many people that problematic anxiety is so common and we are so little equipped to manage it when it’s poisoning our lives. I’m writing this post to share a bit of background on anxiety and pass on some tricks I learned over 20Read more …

Meditation Explained (Meditation Series)

Meditation erklärt (Meditation Serie)

Meditation Explained Since I reconnected with my meditation practice, I started talking with my friends about it and realized that there is often misconception about why we meditate. Misconceptions about Meditation The top misconception I heard about mediation is that “it should relax me”. Relaxation is a mean to an end in meditation and isRead more …

Love versus Longing (Evil Twin Series)


Love versus Longing In Buddhism the core values or qualities that we cultivate are Love, Compassion and Equanimity. All those allow for a life of service to ourselves and the world but all three have tricky Evil Twins that are worth knowing off because they lead us to Darkness instead of Light. The evil twinRead more …

Agile Software Development vs. Mindful Living

Feb 25, 2016 | Posted by in Life, Love, Compassion and Equanimity, Meditation | 4
Agile Mindfulness

Agile Software Development vs. Mindful Living In the 80s the software industry was starting to boom. Many many projects were started and an awful lot, estimated to 80%, failed. Why? Because we were applying the project management principles of mature industries like construction to an immature and constantly evolving topic. Failure was essentially in theRead more …