Abandonment (Wound Series, Childhood Trauma)


Abandonment (Wound Series, Childhood Trauma) I spent years and years of my life being afraid of abandonment and losing anything that was too good. It wasn’t clear for me why. I thought it was how life is: when we don’t have we long for something and when we have it we are afraid of losingRead more …

Small Annoyances – How to Deal with Them?

Jul 20, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Life, Meditation | 18
Small Annoyances

Small Annoyances – How to Deal with Them? Big annoyances rot our joy of life. So we think at least. We actually tend to deal with big annoyances and jump into action to do something about them. With small annoyances we procrastinate, ponder whether it’s worthwhile to do anything, constantly run the thoughts as background noise in our minds. WhenRead more …

3 Prerequisites to Healing Childhood Trauma

Healing Childhood Trauma

3 Prerequisites to Healing Childhood Trauma As I wrote before, I’m a Grown Up Wounded Child under Recovery so I’m on a path to Healing Childhood Trauma. What it means is that I was the victim of Abuse, Abandonment and Neglect in my Childhood. Oh my god you must think I had awful parents. Not at all andRead more …

4 Reasons My Breath is my Life

Jun 6, 2016 | Posted by in Healing, Life, Meditation, Spirituality | 0
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4 Reasons My Breath is my Life Awakening to who you really are is not some mystical experience based on spirits and magic but a process of facing yourself and rediscovering your true nature, the essence of who you are and strive with it. Our Breath plays a central role in this process. Breathing hasRead more …

Fear, Pain and Love Healing my Heart


Fear, Pain and Love Healing my Heart I am asked often these days what kicked off for me the healing process after years of living a half life. I couldn’t answer because I had issues remembering all the events and how I felt at different times. Healing my Heart I’m a Grown Up Wounded Child underRead more …

7th of May 2006 – A Day in my Head

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7th of May 2006 – A Day in my Head Project “A Day in my Head” asked me to make a diary entry about a typical day in my head as part of their wonderful effort to collect diary entries of people suffering from Mental Health issues. If you want to participate into the effort, see theirRead more …

Anxiety – How to Manage it Well?

May 4, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Life, Meditation, Wound consequences | 2

Anxiety – How to Manage it Well? I realized while talking to many people that problematic anxiety is so common and we are so little equipped to manage it when it’s poisoning our lives. I’m writing this post to share a bit of background on anxiety and pass on some tricks I learned over 20Read more …

Meditation Explained (Meditation Series)

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Meditation Explained Since I reconnected with my meditation practice, I started talking with my friends about it and realized that there is often misconception about why we meditate. Misconceptions about Meditation The top misconception I heard about mediation is that “it should relax me”. Relaxation is a mean to an end in meditation and isRead more …

Spiritual vs. Religious Life


Spiritual vs. Religious Life I’m sharing a lot of spiritual texts, articles and quotes. People start asking me whether I’m a religious person, the ones knowing me with quite some surprise. For me the two things are not at all the same so I decided to write this post to clarify where I am. MyRead more …

Grieving my Mom’s death 

Apr 25, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Meditation, Wound consequences, Wounds | 9
Der Tod meiner Mutter zu verarbeiten

Grieving my Mom’s death As described in my post called Grieving and Letting Go grieving is something which applies to anything we are attached to and not only big events. Big events though, especially if experienced in childhood, have a high chance to not have gone properly through the grieving process. Improper Grieving Consequences Grieving allows toRead more …

Love versus Longing (Evil Twin Series)


Love versus Longing In Buddhism the core values or qualities that we cultivate are Love, Compassion and Equanimity. All those allow for a life of service to ourselves and the world but all three have tricky Evil Twins that are worth knowing off because they lead us to Darkness instead of Light. The evil twinRead more …

Agile Software Development vs. Mindful Living

Feb 25, 2016 | Posted by in Life, Love, Compassion and Equanimity, Meditation | 4
Agile Mindfulness

Agile Software Development vs. Mindful Living In the 80s the software industry was starting to boom. Many many projects were started and an awful lot, estimated to 80%, failed. Why? Because we were applying the project management principles of mature industries like construction to an immature and constantly evolving topic. Failure was essentially in theRead more …

Grieving and Letting Go

Feb 19, 2016 | Posted by in Feelings, Healing, Meditation, Wounds | 2
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Grieving and Letting Go When thinking about grieving I always thought about very painful but rare events – like death, sickness or loss of love – that we needed to get over with in order to move on. Since I started my journey into self-healing I started realising that this process is a continuous process, lettingRead more …